Top 453 Quotes & Sayings by Byron Katie - Page 3

It only takes one clear person to have a good relationship.

Thinking that people are supposed to do or be anything other than what they are is like saying that the tree over there should be the sky. I investigated that and found freedom.

When you're comfortable and secure, it's not enough. The mind doesn't stop there because it has to continue to focus itself as this body, so it moves to pleasure. And pleasure really is a non-existent thing. When we're experiencing pleasure, we're trying to hold onto it as it leaves, so it really isn't pleasure. Pleasure is pain because we're grasping.

Discomfort is the call to set yourself free.

You don’t experience anxiety unless you’re attached to a thought that isn’t true for you. It’s that simple.

You can’t have your daughter as long as you have a concept of her. When you get rid of the concept, you meet your daughter for the first time. That’s the way this works.

It's important to realize that inquiry is about noticing, not about dropping the thought... Inquiry is not about getting rid of thoughts; it's about realizing what's true for you, through awareness and unconditional self-love. Once you see the truth, the thought lets go of you, not the other way around.

Your nature is truth, and when you oppose it, you don't feel like yourself. Stress never feels as natural as peace does.

Suffering over things that have happened to us is nothing more than an argument with the past.

The greatest stock market you can invest in is yourself. Finding this truth is better than finding a gold mine.

When you do The Work, you see who you are by seeing who you think other people are. Eventually you come to see that everything outside you is a reflection of your own thinking. You are the storyteller, the projector of all stories, and the world is the projected image of your thoughts.

Until you can love what is - everything, including the apparent violence and craziness - you're separate from the world, and you'll see it as dangerous and frightening.

Who would you be if you didn't believe this lie?

The world is perfect. As you question your mind, this becomes more and more obvious. Mind changes, and as a result, the world changes. A clear mind heals everything that needs to be healed. It can never be fooled into believing that there is one speck out of order.

For me, if somebody tells me to go away, that is an opportunity for me to give them a better life. And that's an opportunity for me to know and realize where not to be. It's an opportunity for me to see what could be better than being with that person I love.

Until we question our stressful thoughts, we remain victims of the images in our head.

That's where the fear comes from-from your uninvestigated thoughts.

The Work always leaves you with less of a story. Who would you be without your story? You never know until you inquire. There is no story that is you or that leads to you. Every story leads away from you. Turn it around; undo it. You are what exists before all stories. You are what remains when the story is understood.

When you stay present with your children, that’s where abundance is. And when you stay out of their business, that’s where everything you deserve in life is. When you’re in presence, there’s no story, and you are abundance. And you come to trust that space so often that you just eventually hang out as that, because there is nothing that can move you out of it, not even a perceived child or a perceived anything.

Reality is always kinder than your thinking.

When you srgue with reality, you lose, but only 100% of the time.

If you knew how important you are, you would fragment into a billion pieces and just be light.

The only way I can be angry at you is when I have thought, said, or done something that is unkind in my own opinion.

There are no physical problems-only mental ones.

The voice within is what I'm married to. All marriage is a metaphor for that marriage. My lover is the place inside me where an honest yes and no come from. That's my true partner. It's always there. And to tell you yes when my integrity says no is to divorce that partner.

When you discover that all happiness is inside you, the wanting and needing are over, and life gets very exciting.

After you've been doing inquiry for a while, if you have the thought "She doesn't love me," you just get the immediate turnaround with a smile: "Oh, I'm not loving myself in this moment."

When we stop opposing reality, action becomes simple, fluid, kind, and fearless.

It's quite an amazing experience to see the same life with and without the thought. We come to see how crazy a thought can make us when we believe it.

There's no nightmare you can't wake yourself up from.

It's difficult to seek other people's love. It's deadly. In seeking it you lose what is genuine. This is the prison we create for ourselves as we seek what we already have.

Nothing outside you can ever give you what you're looking for.

If I want something, I go get it. Anything that I believe will stop me, I question.

When your mind opens, the whole world falls into place.

We begin to not be human, as we've known it, any longer. But to be just creative minds and action, whereas right now we're confused minds and actions, and our environment mirrors that back to us.

We're all looking for love, in our confusion, until we find our way back to the realization that love is what we already are.

You're never given more pain than you can handle. You never, ever get more than you can take.

We may appear to be mean but we're really only frightened.

Being present means living without control and always having your needs met.

Thought the mind can justify itself faster than the speed of light, it can be stopped through the act of writing.

When safety is our priority, we live our lives being very, very careful, and we wind up having no lives

You might believe that it's only for their own good, but how does it feel when you try to manipulate the people you love? Are you teaching them that your love is conditional? Maybe through inquiry we can find another way.

So, how can we live in joy - and how can we know that we're supposed to live in joy the way people tell us to - when we're believing thoughts that bring on sadness and frustration and anger and alienation and loneliness? When we're believing those thoughts, we think that's the world, rather than what we're believing about the world. We're like lost little children.

I love not rushing the process. Mind doesn't shift until it does, and when it does shift, it's right on time, not one second too late or too soon. People are like seeds waiting to sprout. We can't be pushed ahead of our own understanding.

You move totally away from reality when you believe that there is a legitimate reason to suffer".

I have had the privilege of losing everything.

To exclude anything that appears in your universe is not love. Love joins with everything. It doesn't exclude the monster. It doesn't avoid the nightmare - it looks forward to it.

Without our stories, we are not only able to act clearly and fearlessly, we are also a friend, a listener. We are people living happy lives. We are appreciation and gratitude that have become as natural as breath itself. Happiness is the natural state for someone who knows that there's nothing to know and that we already have everything we need, right here now.

The miracle of love comes to you in the presence of the uninterpreted moment. If you are mentally somewhere else, you miss real life.

In my experience, we don't make thoughts appear, they just appear. One day, I noticed that their appearance just wasn't personal. Noticing that really makes it simpler to inquire.

If people are living their lives for security and comfort and pleasure, then mind's every waking moment will be plotting those things. That's how it stays identified - as a body, as a you.

Any story that you tell about yourself causes suffering. There is no authentic story.

When I am perfectly clear, what is is what I want.

Who would you be without the thought that happiness depends on someone else?

The world is as you perceive it to be. For me, clarity is a word for beauty. It’s what I am. And when I’m clear, I see only beauty. Nothing else is possible.

Nothing you believe is true. To know this is freedom.

I came to see that there was nothing to forgive, that I was the one who caused my own problems.

Place only your kindest thoughts on everything you experience today. Meet yourself.

I love what I think, and I'm never tempted to believe it.

We say to others only what we need to hear