Top 188 Quotes & Sayings by Jay Asher

I don't know anything about bullying in Huntington Beach specifically, but I would assume it's very similar to other places.

I had written a book that dealt with really serious issues. Was anybody going to want to read a Christmas love story from me?

It's important to make teens realize the influence they have over others.

My friends and I did one of those 'Who's Hot and Who's Not' lists. Every school has those, and now they are online, which makes it even worse. It was one of those moments that I look back on a lot, and think that was horrible.

I was in Las Vegas, and there was a exhibit of King Tut's tomb, and it was an audio tour. At the very end of that, I just thought it would be a really cool structure for a novel, but I just didn't have a story to go along with it.

When you're being bullied, it can feel like no one cares, and I'm so excited to tell the teens at the schools I visit that I wouldn't be there if their school didn't care.

I miss the newness of Magic Eye posters, which really are amazing.

With traditional school visits, I also get to speak with people who haven't read my books and talk about my writing process as well as the serious aspects I write about.

I think there's always room for humor, especially when you're talking about really serious issues.

I really love visiting schools - in fact, that's my favorite part of being an author now - even though I still get stage fright! When I visit schools, I know I'm going to be talking to some kids who don't like to read.

My favorite aspect of being an author has always been visiting different communities and meeting my readers face to face.

There are things that aren't supposed to be comfortable to read, because those situations shouldn't be comfortable to discuss, but they still need to be discussed.

I thought I was going to be known for my humor. But then I had an idea for a story, which was absolutely not humorous. But, of course, that's the one that sells and becomes big.

I knew that part of the problem with sensitive issues is that, because they're uncomfortable to address, we have a hard time doing so honestly, if at all.

Actually, I love trying to figure out why certain books become hits while others, which may be just as good, have trouble finding an audience.

One of the things I found is that no matter where in the country - poor communities, rich communities - everybody deals with very similar issues of bullying. It's pretty widespread.

I miss video games where the jump-kick was the trickiest combo to master.

It seems like whenever a big newspaper or TV show talks about teen literature, they focus on dark books or vampire books. It's kind of this cliche. It seems like the only time adults pay attention is with that angle.

'Fifty Shades' opened the door and made it easier to write about any issue that's controversial. It has helped other authors talk honestly.

As a writer, my only responsibility is to tell a compelling story.

When me and my author friends who write about other difficult subject matter... when you hear from teens daily saying, 'Your book helped me or made me understand a friend better, what somebody else is going through,' you see the positive things.

What you hear mostly people gripe about adaptations is, 'They took out this scene,' or, 'They had to condense these characters.' I understand why they have to do that. But if you had a favorite character, and now they've been melded together with another one, it's disappointing.

When I decided I wanted to become an author, I never thought something I wrote would be used as a way to start conversations that are otherwise difficult to begin.

Teens in the '90s had the same basic desires as they do now.

It's funny: when I go to a school and speak, and when they hear the back story about me, they want to go read the book.

As an author, I love to know my book sells really well.

Novels are a safe way to talk about things.

When you write a book for publication, you're writing it for other people to read.

There's no way to know exactly what someone's dealing with, no matter how open you are. You're just never going to know everything.

I've always loved brainstorming with other writers, and I consider having my work critiqued a part of that brainstorming.

Bullying has been around forever, and so it became one of these issues that as an adult we look back on and say, 'Yeah, it's just one of those unfortunate parts of growing up.' You know you're not going to stop it, so it just became easier to call it one of those things that 'just happens.'

The Golden Rule will always be good advice!

There's this stress that is relieved when you realize somebody understands, and that's only going to happen if you feel the person who's writing the book or the people in the TV show aren't holding back.

Usually, when somebody really hates your book, they're not going to waste time on it, telling you what you need to work on.

Every action we have is going to have repercussions in ways we could not anticipate.

Of course I always like going to bookstores, but at stores, you're mostly meeting kids who are already into reading.

The main character in the book is usually someone you're identifying with because the story is being told through this person's mind.

When somebody's face-to-face with you saying, 'I may not have been here had I not read your book,' how do you respond to that? The first several times I traveled, it was almost too much. I was totally grateful, but emotionally, it was really hard.

Fiction is an easy way to talk about issues: I think it feels less preachy. You can have the students discuss characters in the book as opposed to hypothetical situations, or as opposed to opening up about themselves, unless they really want to.

If we know it's happening, and we're not having the discussion, we're contributing to the problem of making it seem like people can't open up.

See, I'm not a very good musician.

Looking back, I do think one of the reasons 'Thirteen Reasons Why' has been so successful is not because it deals with serious issues but because I had a unique and interesting way to tell that story. I knew the issues were going to be dealt with in the book, but I felt my job was to write the story as entertainingly as possible.

A flood of emotions rushes into me. Pain and anger. Sadness and pity. But most surprising of all, hope.

If my love were an ocean, there would be no more land. If my love were a desert, you would see only sand. If my love were a star- late at night, only light. And if my love could grow wings, I'd be soaring in flight.

I wanted people to trust me, despite anything they'd heard. And more than that, I wanted them to know me. Not the stuff they thought they knew about me. No, the real me. I wanted them to get past the rumors. To see beyond the relationships I once had, or maybe still had but that they didn't agree with.

After all, how often do we get a second chance?

It's important to be aware of how we treat others. Even though someone appears to shrug off a sideways comment or to not be affected by a rumor, it's impossible to know everything else going on in that person's life, how we might be adding to his/her pain. People do have an impact on the lives of others; that's undeniable.

Maybe it's not as important to you as it was for me, but that's not for you to decide.

You can't stop the future You can't rewind the past The only way to learn the secret ...is to press play.

In the end....everything matters.

I hope you're ready, because I'm about to tell you the story of my life. More specifically, why my life ended. And if you're listening to these tapes, you're one of the reasons why.

No one knows for certain how much impact they have on the lives of other people. Oftentimes, we have no clue. Yet we push it just the same.

Because when you're posed, you know someone's watching. You put on your very best smile. You let your sweetest personality shine.

We all know the sound a camera makes when it snaps a picture. Even some of the digitals do it for nostalgia’s sake.

You can hear rumors. But you can't know them.

You don’t know what goes on in anyone’s life but your own. And when you mess with one part of a person’s life, you’re not messing with just that part. Unfortunately, you can’t be that precise and selective. When you mess with one part of a person’s life, you’re messing with their entire life. Everything. . . affects everything.

And at some point, the struggle becomes too much-too tiring-and you consider letting go. Allowing tragedy... or whatever... to happen.

This time, for the first time, I saw the possibilities in giving up. I even found hope in it.

The main thing I wanted to say, and thankfully it’s what most people say they get out of the book, is simply an acknowledgement that we do affect each other in ways we can’t predict.

Because no, I didn’t push her away. I didn’t add to her pain or do anything to hurt her. Instead, I left her alone in that room. The only person who might’ve been able to reach out and save her from herself. To pull her back from wherever she was heading. I did what she asked and I left. When I should have stayed.