I think one manifestation of integrity is holding a grudge. Saying no is a little different. Holding a grudge is the modern equivalent of having standards.
Holding a grudge does not hurt the person against whom the grudge is held, it hurts the one who holds it.
The problem with holding a grudge is that your hands are then too full to hold onto anything else. It might be the competition or a technology or the lousy things that someone did a decade ago. None of it is going to get better as a result of revisiting the grudge.
It is a device of mine never to grudge trouble in the pursuit of what seems to me really good and never to grudge payment for it afterwards.
I've had a few arguments with people, but I never carry a grudge. You know why? While you're carrying a grudge, they're out dancing.
I didn't much like it, this grudge-holding against the past.
I'm a very tolerant man, except when it comes to holding a grudge.
The value of holding a grudge. And to always refer to my father sarcastically as Mr. Wonderful.
Life is uncertain. Eternity is not. Unforgiveness cannot be allowed to last another day. Are you holding a grudge? You will never be more like God than when you forgive. Let it go. Kill the root of bitterness. Let the hurt go and set yourself free.
Holding a grudge against someone means you think you know what they deserve and you take it upon yourself to give it to them.
The problem with holding a grudge
is that your hands are then too full to hold onto anything else.
My dad always told me that holding a grudge is like swallowing poison and expecting the other person to die.
If you're holding a grudge against somebody over the battle you just went through, you might be working with them on the next bill.
Nothing stirs God’s heart more than a humble heart and a merciful spirit. God responds to mercy, because it is through compassion that we fully come to know Him. This is the defining quality of a true follower of Christ. We are never closer to the heart of God than when we are forgiving someone. And we are never farther from it than when we are holding a grudge.
Don't go into the new year holding a grudge from last year. Leave the hurts and disappointments behind.
Steadfastness, that is holding on; patience, that is holding back; expectancy, that is holding the face up; obedience, that is holding one's self in readiness to go or do; listening, that is holding quiet and still so as to hear.