A Quote by Yiyun Li

But loneliness is as delusive a belief in the pertinence of the world as is love: in choosing to feel lonely, as in choosing to love, one carves a space next to oneself to be filled by others - a friend, a lover, a toy poodle, a violinist on the radio.

Yiyun Li

Quote Topics

Belief Choosing Choosing To Love Feel Filled Friend Loneliness Lonely Love Lover Next Oneself Others Poodle Radio Space To Love Toy Violinist World

Quote Author

Yiyun Li
Chinese - Writer
Born: November 4, 1972

SOLIDAO, LONELINESS. What is it that we call loneliness. It can't simply be the absence of others, you can be alone and not lonely, and you can be among people and yet be lonely. So what is it? ... it isn't only that others are there, that they fill up the space next to us. But even when they celebrate us or give advice in a friendly conversation, clever, sensitive advice: even then we can be lonely. So loneliness is not something simply connected with the presence of others or with what they do. Then what? What on earth?

Pascal Mercier

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Sue Monk Kidd

It is you who are choosing, in any moment, to be happy or choosing to be sad, or choosing to be angry, or forgiving, or enlightened, or whatever. You are choosing.

Neale Donald Walsch

Love is the wanting, and the having, and the choosing, and the becoming. Love is the desire to see the person we love be and become all he or she is capable of being and becoming. Love is a willingness to lay down our own personal plans, desires, and agenda for the good of the relationship. Love is delayed gratification, pleasure, and pain. Love is being able to live and thrive apart, but choosing to be together.

Matthew Kelly

It's funny whom we end up choosing to love and who ends up choosing to love us. It's rarely the people we think it should be.

Robin Jones Gunn

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Billy Porter

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bell hooks

After choosing football so many times, I feel like I'm inclined to make the right decision by finally choosing my family first, and that's real talk.

Marquise Goodwin

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