A Quote by Albert Ellis
Self-esteem is the greatest sickness known to man or woman because it's conditional.
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This, perhaps, goes to show that conditional self-esteem, as I have said for many years, is an insidious, real sickness, so much so that even Buddhists carelessly sneak it in and sometimes encourage their clients to achieve it.
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