A Quote by Donald Woods Winnicott
Feeling real is more than existing; it is finding a way to exist as oneself... and to have a self into which to retreat for relaxation.
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Either dragons should exist completely or fail to exist at all, he felt. A dragon only half-existing was worse than the extremes.
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