A Quote by Tananarive Due

It wasn't just OK to achieve in my family - it was expected. — © Tananarive Due
It wasn't just OK to achieve in my family - it was expected.
A baby is expected. A trip is expected. News is expected. Forgetfulness is expected. An invitation is expected. Hope is expected. But memories are not expected. They just come.
It's OK to burn a Bible, that's OK. OK to burn a flag, OK, that's all right. But just, you know, for heaven's sake, don't say anything that might offend someone of the Islamic religion.
So, it's like: I'm an OK singer; I'm an OK guitar player and you put them together and... it's just OK.
In the daytime, I was expected to be the straight-A student. I was expected to be college bound. I was expected to be a great big sister. And then at night, I was just a club kid.
I didn't have a blueprint from my childhood that I could call on, which is an enormous deficit when you're trying to put together a family life. I didn't see a family life where men were thriving inside of it. You know, my dad tended to blame the family for his inability to achieve what he wanted to achieve, you know? So, unfortunately, I was coming from that particular frame of mind.
Part of my family were ranchers. So you were expected to be quite macho. You weren't expected to cry. I was the exact opposite of that.
It is ok to err, but it is not ok to stop playing; it is ok to lose, but it is not ok to give up.
Absolute trust is something hard to achieve even in a family, and it is much harder to achieve on an international level.
If we expected self-reliance of family groups, if we expected hardiness and resilience and initiative on the part of individuals, and if we rewarded initiative instead of dependence on government, we would not only ameliorate many of the family-related social problems we see at present, but we would also reduce our vulnerability to terrorism. People who are hardy, resilient, and self reliant are a lot harder to terrorize.
Tom Bradford is a lot like the real me. He's a man who always put his career second to his family. As long as everything was OK at home, he was OK, too.
Family is everything. Family comes first. It's not what I expected it to be, but nothing ever is.
We talk about what's important to Hispanics: education, family, creating an environment in which you can achieve what you want to achieve because there aren't going to be obstacles in your way.
It's OK to want to look and feel your best. It's OK to work at being attractive, whatever that means to you. And it's also OK to not expect to be defined by that. It's OK to be powerful in every way: to be big, to take up space. To breathe and thrive.
In my family, graduating and getting your bachelor's is just the beginning. It's only expected. You're underachieving if you don't strive for more than that.
There are no 'Leave It to Beaver' families. Everybody's family's got that one nut that comes to the family reunion and you're like, OK, that guy's here.
I think people tend to see the bigger point, which is maybe not fitting in and feeling like you didn't have the childhood that you expected you would have, or that you felt lonely or struggled with drugs and alcohol or just that you were able to achieve your dreams.
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