A Quote by Tara Brach
I think it's possible to have experiences of love without attachment, but I think part of our conditioning is to grasp at times, especially when there are unmet needs. It's part of our nervous system to hold on to where we think those needs will be met.
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unmet needs, you'll attract others in the same position.
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