A Quote by Volkmar Sigusch
Aura of the mysterious is a minor perversion that a couple shares. A fetish that one of the two partners finds arousing, or a particular sexual scenario. Fantasies have to remain dirty. Cleanliness, scrupulousness and rationality are poison for eroticism.
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Fantasies have to remain dirty. Cleanliness, scrupulousness and rationality are poison for eroticism.
It's important for a couple to talk about their sexual preferences. On the other hand, the aura of the mysterious should be preserved.
The true liberation of eroticism lies in accepting the fact that there are a million facets to it, a million forms of eroticism, a million objects of it, situations, atmospheres, and variations. We have, first of all, to dispense with guilt concerning its expansion, then remain open to it's surprises, varied expressions, and mingle it with dreams, fantasies, and emotion for it to attain its highest potency.
Eroticism is mystique; that is, the aura of emotion and imagination around sex. It cannot be 'fixed' by codes of social or moral convenience, whether from the political left or right. For nature's fascism is greater than that of any society. There is a daemonic instability in sexual relations that we may have to accept.
I'm reminded of a female patient who was particularly aroused by the shape of her husband's shoulder. And this hint of perversion should ideally remain a secret for both partners.
If your sexual fantasies were truly of interest to others, they would no longer be fantasies.
In eroticism as dance: one of the partners is always charged with leading the other.
You know, quite a few species of fish require two or more sexual partners.
In love, for example - the so-called love - we are 'related.' We appear to be related. We create the fallacy of a relationship, but in fact we are just deceiving ourselves. The two will remain two. Howsoever near, the two will remain two. Even in sexual communion they will be two. This two-ness, this duality will never last. So a relationship is only creating a fallacious oneness. It is not there. Oneness can never exist between two selves. Oneness can only exist between two no-selves.
A peer relationship is one where the partners experience an affectionate, companionate coupledom. They are friends. They are the product of the egalitarian model; they are good life partners, but are often less sexual.
You're a tourist in sexual perversion. I'm a prisoner there.
At the same time, eroticism in the home requires active engagement and willful intent. It is an ongoing resistance to the message that marriage is serious, more work than play; and that passion is for teenagers and the immature. We must unpack our ambivalence about pleasure, and challenge our pervasive discomfort with sexuality, particularly in the context of family. Complaining of sexual boredom is easy and conventional. Nurturing eroticism in the home is an act of open defience.
and then she asks me how many sexual partners I've had and I say one or two depending on your definition of what I did to Custer . . .
There's two kinds of dirty - dirty and sewer-dirty. Danny Ferry is sewer-dirty and has been ever since he was at Duke.
Eroticism differs from animal sexuality in that human sexuality is limited by taboos and the domain of eroticism is that of the transgression of these taboos. Desire in eroticism is the desire that triumphs over the taboo. It presupposes man in conflict with himself.
It's in the homes of spiteful old widows that one finds such cleanliness.
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