A Quote by T. J. MacGregor
Don't seek approval. This may be the toughest suggestion for you to follow -- and the most important. Whether you'te a teenager seeking approval from your peers, a middle-aged parent seeking the approval of your kids, or a man or woman seeking the approval of a partner, it all amounts to the same thing. You're giving your personal power away every time you seek validation from someone else for who you are.
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Acceptance is approval, a word with a bad name in some psychologies. Yet it is perfectly normal to seek approval in childhood and throughout life. We require approval from those we respect. The kinship it creates lifts us to their level, a process referred to in self-psychology as transmuting internalization. Approval is a necessary component of self-esteem. It becomes a problem only when we give up our true self to find it. Then approval-seeking works against us.
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Seeking approval and people pleasing forces you to alter your actions and speech to no longer reflect what you actually think or feel.
When you do not seek or need approval, you are at your most powerful.
I've searched all of my life for approval from my dad who is not around. So if I can get approval by his fans or from peers and critics, it helps me.
As a servant desireth the approval of his master, and a son the approval of his father, so should we desire the approval of God and our own conscience.
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But I'm not worried about seeking out the approval of others - that high school thing of joining the club.
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